‘Normal is an illusion’

Before I raise a point, I want to ask you, who finalizes a major decision at your home? Is it your father, husband or brother? Why – Because they are elder, have more experience or simply because that’s the norm?

I almost never thought about this before, but a look-back shows me how normal it is to accept a male figure’s decision as something set in stone. Of course there have been times when my mother was against a step, but a nod from my father changed her decision. There have also been times when my mother convinced my father for something. But I want to ask – why are women given convincing power and not the power to make the final decision or to refute a statement?

The fact that sometimes women are the ones who encourage female inferiority by leaving decisions on their male counterparts baffles me – “You may have to compromise with your future husband and agree to change your workplace if need be.”

I was having this deep conversation with my friend and she said, and I quote, “whoever’s roof it is, you will have to follow their orders invariably.” If I consider older times when women were financially dependent, I can see why it was being accepted. But times have changed now..or..not?

• #Genderbias
• #Womanempowerment
• Equality
• Feminism